Relationship Questions You Need to Ask Yourself

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Relationship Questions
You Need to Ask Yourself

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Relationship questions can help us to better understand our relationships, or what we desire from a relationship, whether we are single, dating, or in a committed partnership. At different stages of our love lives, there are different types of questions we may find ourselves asking. Finding the answers that truly feel right to us is vital in developing happy and healthy relationships.

Asking ourselves relationship questions can help us gain clarity into what is really important to us, what are the best ways to go about creating more of these aspects in our love lives, and how we can become more loving and understanding partners ourselves.

PART 1 – SINGLE BUT LOOKING

If you are single, but looking, here are some key relationship questions you can ask yourself that will help you figure out exactly what you want your love life to look like. This is very important, as knowing exactly what you want is the very first step in achieving what you want. Take some time to think about these questions:

What is my ideal romantic situation at this stage of my life? Do I want to be in a serious relationship, or would I rather be dating several people?
What are the qualities I would like in a prospective date/partner? Do I care more about dating someone who shares my interests, someone with a great sense of humor, someone physically attractive, someone who is romantic and expressive, someone who is spontaneous, caring, intelligent, successful, wealthy, socially conscious, spiritually minded, athletic, or ambitious?
Which of the qualities I chose in Q2 are extremely important to me? Which ones could I do without? (While it is very important to be clear on what you really want, remember to be realistic.)
How would I like to meet a prospective date/partner?
Am I creating opportunities where this type of meeting could take place?
Am I open to either of us making the first move?
How would I like a first date to take place?
How much of my time would I like to spend with the person/people I am dating?
What qualities do I want dating/a relationship to add to my life? Happiness, fun, excitement, companionship, adventure, intimacy?
How can I work on adding more of the qualities I chose in Q9 to my own life while I am creating the love life I want?

PART 2 – IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP

If you are in a fairly new relationship, and wondering whether, or how, to take it to the next level, here are some relationship questions that can help you get a clearer picture on how you want things to progress:

If I list the qualities that I want in a partner, (see Part 1 – Q2 and Q3), does my partner have all or most of the qualities that I listed as extremely important to me?
How happy am I now with the quality of my relationship? Are there many aspects that I would like to see changes in, or is it mostly the way I want it to be?
Do either of us tend to place unreasonable demands on the other partner? If so, how could this situation be improved?
Are my partner and I fairly equally committed to the relationship, or is there more give than take in either direction?
Do my partner and I have similar or compatible philosophies in regard to goals, wealth, religion, family, and career?
Can I picture myself being with this person in a year, five years, or twenty years? (Depending on what stage you are at in a relationship, perhaps you can’t yet picture the two of you together in twenty years. However, if you can’t see yourself being with them in a year, you may need to do some soul searching on your true feelings and desires.)
Do my partner and I enhance the quality of each other’s lives? Do I find it easy to be my best self when I am around my partner? How can I continue enhancing the quality of my own life?

PART 3 – IN A LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP

If you are in a long-term committed relationship, you may find the need for various types of relationship questions from time to time. Here are some questions that may help you to strengthen and improve the quality of your partnership:

Do my partner and I prioritize our relationship enough? If not, what steps can we take to improve this situation? (Some ideas that couples use include ‘date nights,’ saying ‘no’ to a few invitations and spending time in together, taking up an activity together, and sending SMS or emails during the day.)
Are we supporting each other in our individual goals as well as in our joint goals?
Do we have shared visions for the future?
Does our communication need improving? (If so, one point that can be very helpful is to try and deal with your own emotional reactions first in your own way, so that you can communicate with your partner clearly and calmly.)
Is there enough affection and intimacy in our relationship?
Do either of us expect the other to fulfill more needs in our lives than is healthy and reasonable? If so, how can one or both of us create a wider support network to help take the pressure off the relationship?
What can I do to keep creating more happiness and fulfillment in my own life?

Whatever the status of your romantic situation right now, asking yourself (and sometimes your partner) some thought-provoking relationship questions can go a long way to helping you make your love life everything you want it to be.