If you are reading this article, you probably know what a terrible sensation it is to feel I hate myself. Without healing this feeling, there is very little joy to be had in anything life has to offer. Self hatred creates a barrier of hostility, fear and separation between our true selves and our conscious minds with which we experience our daily lives.

Most of us are aware on some level that one of the keys to happiness is to love ourselves, but this can feel like an impossible dream if you are trapped in the pit of self hatred. If you want to overcome the misery that comes from feeling I hate myself, one of the first steps is to recognize the harm that allowing this feeling to persist is causing you, and the fact that you are the one with the power to put an end to this suffering. Failing to understand that you have a choice, and that thoughts and feelings of self hatred can be transformed, allows this highly toxic emotion to eat away at your well-being.

Once you have accepted that continuing to tell yourself I hate myself is not a valid choice, the next step is to begin to believe that it is possible to be free of this feeling, and to eventually experience genuine self acceptance. When you are currently in a prison of self loathing, it is not realistic to expect yourself to suddenly become filled with self love and confidence. You do, however, need to create a glimmer of hope in your heart that there may indeed be a better way to feel, and that it is possible you can begin to feel this way at some point.

Affirmations are a very powerful way to change our thoughts, feelings, and as a result, our experience of life. Affirmations are simply positive phrases that are repeated over and over, stating that what we wish to experience is, in fact, a reality.

One of the pitfalls, though, that people fall into when using affirmations, is to make their affirmations too far from the realm of what their conscious minds can believe and begin to accept. If your current feeling is I hate myself, then starting to affirm, I love myself is going to feel completely false and unbelievable.

However, if you make your affirmation a little closer to your current reality, you have a much better chance of being able to identify with what you are saying. When you feel a certain level of association with what you are affirming, it is easier to stick with it long and often enough to begin feeling a shift – however slight that shift may be at first.

Do expect to step out of your comfort zone a little when using affirmations to transform a belief or pattern of behavior. Staying in your comfort zone would mean sticking with what you are used to, and if you are used to telling yourself I hate myself, you definitely need to start dragging yourself out of that misery-inducing habit.

Some affirmations that may help you to begin slowly and patiently hoisting yourself out of the misery of feeling I hate myself are as follows;

• I am willing to believe that I can feel better about myself.

• I allow myself to accept the possibility that there is a way to experience self-acceptance, and to begin to value myself.

• I am beginning to let go of the negative beliefs that are keeping me from happiness and self acceptance.

• I trust that with patience and persistence, my doubts, fears and negativity about myself are being transformed.

As well as addressing the condition of self loathing, it is very important to also look at the underlying causes that lead you to feel I hate myself.

These may include negative beliefs and thoughts that you hold about how you ‘should’ be, and are usually based on things that you have been told, or the unrealistic expectations that are promoted by popular media. Developing new, honest, and realistic perceptions of yourself as a flesh and blood human being, rather than comparing yourself unfavorably with airbrushed, media-hyped, too-good-to-be-true celebrities (or even putting the people around you on pedestals) can go a long way to building genuine self esteem.

Comparison is a very dangerous trap to fall into, as there will always be others more or less successful, attractive, or wealthy than you. Learn to enjoy your strengths and to accept your perceived faults while keeping an optimistic attitude towards improving aspects of your life or your habits that you don’t like.

With understanding, compassion, patience, and willingness to create new and empowering thoughts, habits, and feelings, you can truly find saying I hate myself becoming a thing of the past.

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