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Feel the Pain
In Order to Move on to Joy

Very few people want to feel pain. It is not nice or pleasant, but it is inevitable. Whether our pain brings suffering to our lives is largely dependent on how we handle it. Suffering is always caused by a conflict between what we believe reality should be, and what reality actually is. Fighting against reality does not change what is happening in our lives, but rather, it intensifies and distorts the pain of difficult experiences.

By allowing ourselves to feel, rather than fight the sorrow of life’s tough times, we can move through the pain much faster, and experience it as a pure sensation rather than an inner turmoil. Fear of feeling pain is almost always worse than the pain itself, and giving into the pain can actually lessen its intensity.

If you are going to experience sorrow, as part of the human experience, why complicate the issue with resistance, fear, and suppression? By allowing yourself to feel the pain when it comes, you also open your heart to making a quick recovery, and to being able to fully experience the joy that will also come, as surely as night follows day.

You can also take the pain and channel the energy that it brings into some expression of creativity. This very article itself is an outpouring of some intense personal pain that I am currently experiencing. Between sobbing my heart out, and having heart-felt talks with friends, I felt that I needed to give my pain a positive outlet, so I decided to write about the importance of letting it be felt and heard.

I recently wrote about feelings, and how important it is to allow ourselves to feel them fully. This article follows a similar theme, but the key difference I feel, is that is that pain is a physical and/or emotional state of being, rather than an emotion. However, emotions and pain are very closely linked. Much research has been done on how pain affects emotions and vice versa.

If we try to separate our emotions from the pain that we experience though, it can become easier to live through the pain without becoming distressed, fearful, or negative. Even more effective in allowing ourselves to experience sorrow without creating suffering, is to step back and be objective about the pain. We can experience the pain passively; let it pass through our beings, rather than having to actively ‘feel’ it. You do not need to do anything to feel the pain, just allow it to be felt.

And once the cloud of sorrow has passed through your life, keep your heart just as open, and allow the joy that will surely come to fully enter your life. By avoiding an attachment to how things ‘should’ be, you can flow with the natural changes life brings, pass swiftly through the pain, and embrace the joy.

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